How is it that you get over someone?

Even if a relationship ends on mutual terms and you are happy with the decision you have made, there is still at times that sick feeling in the pit of your stomach. Maybe it is a memory of good times, happy feelings or an unexpected mention or meeting which can throw you completely off base. One moment you are fine and then next it feels like a punch to the chest, leaving you breathless and sick.

A good friend has been know to say that you don't get over someone until you love someone else the same way or more. Until that happens you remain in a slight limbo. You know you no longer want or need the ex, but not entirely convinced you will ever find that enduring love again.

A friend whose relationship ended a year ago, sited the ex and parents recently. No contact was made but the experience left doubt that the 'getting over' was done and dusted. My reaction was 'Wow! You survived!'. For I have yet to come face to face with a lover from many years back. And I dread the moment it will happen. Does this mean I am not over him yet?